Don’t Allow Fear To Control Your Life

How often do we make excuses to delay starting something new in our lives? Creating excuses often results in missing out on new opportunities because fear takes over us. The fear of making a fool out of ourselves or better yet fear to FAIL. Failure is simply not succeeding at something you tried to achieve. Many of us have failed at something at one point in our lives, but it did not stop us from trying over and over until we reached our desired goal. It’s okay to feel scared and nervous before starting something new, but it is not good to allow these feelings to prevent us from achieving our goals. Life has so much to offer, and we sometimes are afraid to go after new opportunities because we allow fear take over us.

I have failed many times throughout my life and yes I may have at times felt upset, but it is typical to experience frustration. No one likes the feeling of failure, but the worst thing we can do is give up. I know I do not want to spend my life thinking what if I would have tried one more time. Living our lives with what ifs is not beneficial to our well-being. As we let go of fear we start to feel confident in ourselves. We also begin to grow emotionally and mentally. In the process, we start to enjoy life, and we notice new opportunities come into our lives.

Fear should not control our decision to grow emotionally, mentally, or professionally. We need to be comfortable with trying more than once if the first time we don’t succeed at something. Grab the bull by its horns and follow your heart. Keep in mind Rome was not built in one day. Everything takes time but when you least expect you will reach your goals. I hope this blog inspires you not to allow fear to control your life and interfere with your goals. If you enjoy reading this post, make sure you share and please comment. Thank you, for your continued support.


The Cruel Reality of Body Image

A few days ago I read a post on Facebook that caught my attention. Body image affects both men and women. Billboards, magazines, television, and now social media are sending negative body image messages that affect many people both young and old. Most of the people featured are of tall, with colored eyes, light skin, light hair, and most important a size 0 woman. If images like these affect able-bodied people can you imagine what it does to those of us who on the outside look different. I am not only referring to physical disabilities, but also to people who have weight issues, height, and any other features that may be abnormal to the average person

As a teenager I struggled with self-esteem. I never told anyone about it I was not embarrassed but it was something private that I do not want to share. I seldom talked about my feelings and the things that made me feel insecure. I was fortunate to grow up with people who accepted me for who I am and never make me feel insecure. My friends always included me in all activity and also invited me to social gatherings. Although I was accepted by them my sel-esteem insecurities were still taunting me. After graduating from high school and went into deep depression and pretty much isolated myself from the world. One day I realized I wanted to do something with my life. I have never used my physical disability as an excuse for not doing things. I decided to enroll in college. Attending college helped me to explore and learn more about myself. I slowly learned to love and accept who I am. I am going into more details about my experience with higher education that will be on a different blog.

Now fast-forward to today. I can honestly tell you I feel much better about myself both inside and out. Do not get me wrong I sometimes wish I could lose a few pounds, but then again many of us at one point or another wish for the same thing . I think it is normal to feel this way because life is not perfect it is a learning process. Education has helped me to love who I am and what I am worth. I may not be able to physically do things like everyone else, but the one thing I have that many take for granted is the will power to strive for a better future. I am not a perfect person and I have many flaws. However, my family in essence the younger generation gives me the fuel to get up every morning and try to be the best person you can. I put myself through school and what I mean by this is I had no one in guiding me and somehow I have been able to accomplish my goals.

If you are reading my blog and you are struggling with self-esteem I highly suggest you focus on your abilities. Perhaps you are artistic or have any other talents. Stop focusing on how you look on the outside. Another thing that has helped me is positive thinking and self-help books. If you are interested in knowing more about this feel free to massage me. I can also share with you books that have helped me. Believe me there is no such thing as a perfect person. Value who you are, you were put on this earth for a purpose. I believe in a higher power who to me is God. I was born the way I am because I truly believe there is a purpose for me in this world just like there is a purpose for you. I do not want to write about religion, because it is a controversial subject and I only want positive comments on my blogs.


At some point in life everyone experience a sense of uncertainty, sadness, anxiety, and so on. Although we may experience some of these symptoms we delay in getting treatment for our emotional well-being. On the other hand when we experience unusual physical symptoms like chest pain, a rash,  or a prolonged fever our initial thought is to visit a medical doctor as soon as possible. Early prevention can help save many lives from terminal illnesses.  Just like early medical prevention is important so is early mental health prevention. Prevention is the key to help save lives whether medical or emotional.

It is important for us to pay close attention to symptoms that may be interfering with our daily function. You may be wondering what I mean by daily function it can be anything from lack of motivation, sleep pattern change, appetite change, isolation, and or tearfulness among many other symptoms. Most of the time people hesitate to seek mental health services because society has implied that it is shameful to do so. Another reason why most of us may hesitate to seek professional help is because people will perceive of us to be crazy. Mental health care continues to be a controversial subject in many cultures.  

 I like to focus on depression that is a common diagnosis among many people regardless of socio economic status, religion, ethnicity, gender, and educational background.  We can experience depression due to the loss of a love one (romantic or not), change in environment (work, home, or school), low self-esteem, interpersonal partner violence, gender identify, among many more reasons.  Unfortunately many people use drugs and alcohol as a coping mechanism instead of seeking professional help.  There are several ways to decrease depressive symptoms. Exercising on a daily basis along with healthy eating can help us feel better. It is also important to have a support system which can be made up of family and close friends. The best treatment is therapy but in severe cases, the use of medication may be required.

Feelings of sadness and loneliness can lead someone to feel suicidal which, is when meditation comes into play.  Some common phrases people use to describe feelings or thoughts of suicide are “I do not want to live anymore”.  “I would like to sleep and never wake up”.  “No one is going to miss me”.  If you or someone you know is going through a difficult time talk to someone, you trust also seek professional help.  Do not be embarrassed or feel shameful to ask for help keep it in mind that you are not alone. There people who care about your well-being.

Helpful resources:  National Suicide Hotline