Don’t Allow Fear To Control Your Life

How often do we make excuses to delay starting something new in our lives? Creating excuses often results in missing out on new opportunities because fear takes over us. The fear of making a fool out of ourselves or better yet fear to FAIL. Failure is simply not succeeding at something you tried to achieve. Many of us have failed at something at one point in our lives, but it did not stop us from trying over and over until we reached our desired goal. It’s okay to feel scared and nervous before starting something new, but it is not good to allow these feelings to prevent us from achieving our goals. Life has so much to offer, and we sometimes are afraid to go after new opportunities because we allow fear take over us.

I have failed many times throughout my life and yes I may have at times felt upset, but it is typical to experience frustration. No one likes the feeling of failure, but the worst thing we can do is give up. I know I do not want to spend my life thinking what if I would have tried one more time. Living our lives with what ifs is not beneficial to our well-being. As we let go of fear we start to feel confident in ourselves. We also begin to grow emotionally and mentally. In the process, we start to enjoy life, and we notice new opportunities come into our lives.

Fear should not control our decision to grow emotionally, mentally, or professionally. We need to be comfortable with trying more than once if the first time we don’t succeed at something. Grab the bull by its horns and follow your heart. Keep in mind Rome was not built in one day. Everything takes time but when you least expect you will reach your goals. I hope this blog inspires you not to allow fear to control your life and interfere with your goals. If you enjoy reading this post, make sure you share and please comment. Thank you, for your continued support.

 

Beauty Time

In a previous post “I am Still a Woman”, I stated that our inner beauty is important. However, I also believe in getting pampered and feeling pretty for yourself and not for others. We are all aware that people judge a book by its cover, and I know this by experience. Let’s face it, when people see us (wheelchair user), the first thing they notice is our wheelchair. If they are mature enough to see beyond the wheelchair, then perhaps our beauty will be notice. Just because I cannot walk does not mean I cannot feel pretty.

As a teenager, I had a personal hairdresser come to my apartment once a month. Having my hairdresser come to my home, was an excellent idea. It made things easier for the three of us (my caregiver, my hairdresser, and myself). I did not have to struggle to get out of my wheelchair to get my hair wash. After, a couple of years my hairdresser moved away. I had my share of inpatient hairdressers. Nonetheless, some excellent workers do not mind accommodating their clients. I currently have a great person who does my hair, and she is very patient. If you are some who requires accommodations communication is essential. As a consumer, you may be necessary to bring specialized equipment you may use at home to wash your hair. My wheelchair tilts which is helpful when I get my brows done.

Don’t be discourage if you cannot find a salon where you feel comfortable. It is a work in the process do not settle for less. Sooner or later you will come across caring professional people. What I want you to know is that we can and are beautiful women no matter what. Do not allow your disability to get in the way of maintaining your hair, your face, and body. Go out there and get pampered! It is time focus on yourself!

I’m Still a Woman

Hi Lifestylers,

Living with a physical disability can be difficult for many people. Disabled women often struggle with self-esteem. However, as a lady who was born with a neuromuscular disease (Spinal Muscular Atrophy) and who is wheelchair bound my condition has not defined who I am. I do not feel less than of a woman because of my situation. Although society has implied over and over that outer beauty is important, it is not what makes a woman. Any type of physical disability can lower a person’s self-esteem regardless of their gender.

In my situation, I have experienced positive relationships with the opposite sex (able body), and I choose to only to date only able body men. There is no doubt that people observe my black electric wheelchair before they notice me. However, I completely understand that my wheelchair is a part of my life, and I cannot nor would I change it. Don’t get me wrong I did struggle with my self-esteem in the past (as a teenager), but I was surrounded by great people who helped me realize what is truly important. As a grown woman, I understand inner beauty is more important than outer beauty.

I like to share with you have few techniques that help me stay optimistic regardless of my everyday struggles. I believe in a higher power who helps me when I am having a bad day (because I do have those). Reading self- help books is something I enjoy and also is helpful. My most recent audiobook I like is The Year of Yes by Shondra Rhimes. I highly recommend this book it is truly divine and motivational.

Authenticity is important to me I cannot pretend to be someone I am not. I have many limitations, but I do not allow them to get in the way of the things I can do.  I try to consider new opportunities, which is why I started blogging. I want to share my life and experiences and struggles with you in the hope of educating the public. Life has countless of gifts in store for us, but we need to take risks to find them. Risks taking helps us learn about ourselves and our abilities. Sometimes we tend to give up without even trying.

Being a wheelchair user, I have learned that I am capable of doing almost anything. Don’t get me wrong it is not easy, and most of the time I do things differently, but I get them done.  Every time I accomplish a new task, it helps to raise my self-esteem. It motivates me to do and try more things. I’ve been discouraged many times, but I get back up and continue to live life. Never give up regardless of the situation as long as you have life you have hope. Till next I hope you found this post helpful.
 

 

 

 

 

New Topic Announcement

Hello Lifestylers,

I hope everyone is having a great week. I like to announce that I will be featuring a new series of blog post topics related to disability issues. This may include but not limited to suggestions for living a happier life, self-esteem, fashion, sexuality, education, employment, and much more. In case you do not know I started blogging to share my life as a disable Mexican woman in Los Angeles. Click here to read more about me. Stay tune….to learn more about me and my experiences.

Five Steps To Achieve Your Goals

Hi Lifestylers,

Setting goals can be difficult for some people, but it does not need to be this way. There are benefits to settings goals like they help prioritize what needs to get done promptly. They also help to motivate you to make positive changes. I for one enjoy setting goals it helps me to stay focus on things that need to get done. It is also helpful when you need to juggle several things at once. For instance work, school, and everyday life. The following are steps you can use to help guide you in the process of setting and completing goals.

Step 1: Create a picture of the goal you want to achieve. Also, a time frame of when you want to achieve the goal (s).

Step 2: Purchase an organizer that suits your style. Try to get one that has plenty of space for you to write. If you do not like the idea of an organizer, you can use a notebook.

Step 3: I recommend you buy different color pens and highlighters. This can help distinguish which is for what category (school, work, etc.).

Step 4: You can now start writing your goals. Make sure you start with one if you are not used to setting goals.

Step 5: Finally, check the progress of your goal (s). If you delay or fall off track, don’t beat yourself up. Make it fun and enjoy every minute of it.

Lifestylers, I hope this steps help and motivate you to achieve your dreams! Let me what you do reach your goals. Comment below!