I’m Still a Woman

Hi Lifestylers,

Living with a physical disability can be difficult for many people. Disabled women often struggle with self-esteem. However, as a lady who was born with a neuromuscular disease (Spinal Muscular Atrophy) and who is wheelchair bound my condition has not defined who I am. I do not feel less than of a woman because of my situation. Although society has implied over and over that outer beauty is important, it is not what makes a woman. Any type of physical disability can lower a person’s self-esteem regardless of their gender.

In my situation, I have experienced positive relationships with the opposite sex (able body), and I choose to only to date only able body men. There is no doubt that people observe my black electric wheelchair before they notice me. However, I completely understand that my wheelchair is a part of my life, and I cannot nor would I change it. Don’t get me wrong I did struggle with my self-esteem in the past (as a teenager), but I was surrounded by great people who helped me realize what is truly important. As a grown woman, I understand inner beauty is more important than outer beauty.

I like to share with you have few techniques that help me stay optimistic regardless of my everyday struggles. I believe in a higher power who helps me when I am having a bad day (because I do have those). Reading self- help books is something I enjoy and also is helpful. My most recent audiobook I like is The Year of Yes by Shondra Rhimes. I highly recommend this book it is truly divine and motivational.

Authenticity is important to me I cannot pretend to be someone I am not. I have many limitations, but I do not allow them to get in the way of the things I can do.  I try to consider new opportunities, which is why I started blogging. I want to share my life and experiences and struggles with you in the hope of educating the public. Life has countless of gifts in store for us, but we need to take risks to find them. Risks taking helps us learn about ourselves and our abilities. Sometimes we tend to give up without even trying.

Being a wheelchair user, I have learned that I am capable of doing almost anything. Don’t get me wrong it is not easy, and most of the time I do things differently, but I get them done.  Every time I accomplish a new task, it helps to raise my self-esteem. It motivates me to do and try more things. I’ve been discouraged many times, but I get back up and continue to live life. Never give up regardless of the situation as long as you have life you have hope. Till next I hope you found this post helpful.





About Terry

Terry 2014

I’m a Latina, who lives in the beautiful city of Los Angeles, Ca. First and foremost I like to share with you that I was born with a physical condition known as Spinal Muscular Atrophy (SMA). It permanently weakens the muscles. Due to the status, I have been wheelchair bound my whole life. An important factor is that this doesn’t mean I’m paralyzed ( I have full body sensation). I believe everyone encounters obstacles in different forms. Unfortunately, my obstacles are mainly accessibility (not everyplace is wheelchair friendly).  I have never led my physical condition to get in the way of my goals.

I have a background in psychology and currently working toward my PsyD degree. I live a normal life with the exception that I am sitting down all day, and someone helps me throughout the day. I have been fortunate enough to have people in my life who are nonjudgmental and accept me just the way I am. Like most young girls, growing up I was fascinated and still am with makeup and fashion. As a teenager, I remember watching makeup commercials my favorite ones being from Cover Girl. I dreamt of being a “Cover Girl” someday. Well, that never happened but it shows how powerful the media is, and the effect it has on young women. Blogging has become a part of my life because I am able to raise awareness on issues that are important to me. Also to inform the public that women who have physical conditions also like makeup and fashion. Please follow and leave a comment. I look forward to establishing new friendships with people who share similar interest. Till next Lifestylers!